A long time ago, I read an article called "50 things women wished men knew" and shared it with some people, knowing we could do better.
My list has more than 50. Some I've shared before with others, some I really haven't.
It's kind of my letter I probably will never send.



 I like to hear the words “I love you” but only if you really mean it
 Real men can drive stick, wield a hammer and/or do their own taxes.
 Lying breaks my heart
 There are still secrets I've never spoken outloud, mostly because no one has ever asked.
 The feel of your lips just below my ear will make me agree to anything
 Capable men are a turn on.
 I love when you hug me and whisper in my ear
 “Fine” is never an acceptable answer. For anything. From me or you.
 It takes very little to make me genuinely happy.
 Most of the time when I fantasize, it’s about you.
 I sometimes forget you have another life.
 I get turned on simply seeing I have an email from you.
 I expect you to call me or text me or contact me if you’ve said you will.
 I’m more forgiving of you than I should really be a lot of the time.
 Oral sex is kinda like a get out of jail free card.
 If I’m not having sex with you it’s because I either don't feel well or you did something to hurt me.
 Shoes determine fashion – it matters to me what shoes I put on silly as it might seem to you.
 Romancing me always makes me a sure thing
 Kissing me to shut me up is a very good plan
 Kiss me, don't ask, just do it.
 A man should plan fancy-schmancy dinners, dress up dates, weekend getaways sometimes and taking care of hiring the babysitter for a surprise date once in a while.
 Only once in a while. I don't mind doing things for you and I don't need or want that much "fancy"
 I can dissect a simple sentence 98 ways and use each variation as a reason to feel bad about myself. One of the other 2 ways I never thought of is probably the way you actually meant it.
 The best gift I can get is you, your time, yourself.
 My wants, needs and desires change from day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute and sometimes second to second
 It feels like I’ve failed if I can’t turn you on.
 It shows me how mature you are if you ask for directions, assistance call your mom just because.
 I like a man who’s in control
 It may seem sappy but holding my hand makes me melt.
 You’re sexy when you’re fixing things, wearing a white tshirt and jeans, driving, having an intelligent discussion or holding a baby, puppy or kitten.
 I need to hear how you feel about me, tell me often.
 Surprises, not necessarily gifts, equal more sex
 I want to be the best thing that ever happened to you, and I wish for you to recognize that.
 I never feel like enough.
 Even though I can't have more kids, and really wouldn't want them anyway, I still think about what it'd be like to have yours.
 If I’m not feeling loved, I’m more likely to look elsewhere.
 I think you deserve to be appreciated.
 Discussion of how great your ex was should probably be mostly avoided, and always avoided in bed
 I like when you tell me what you’re thinking, even if you don’t know yourself and I don't want to have to ask.
 Celebrating anniversary’s, even weeks, months, earns bonus points.
 I love it when you’re sweaty
 Women don’t like to always have to ask for sex either, and if you say no often enough, we’ll stop asking.
 I like to be greeted with kisses, always.
 I like erotica, even porn. Shh....
 I blush like a 15 year old
 I like my hand on your ass, especially if you’re wearing faded, worn jeans.
 Even nice girls like hushed dirty talk in public.
 It’s cheating as soon as you’re doing something with her you wouldn’t want me to see, hear or read.
 For the record, most of the time I’d rather you left than cheat.
 Cheating … hmmmmm saying anything about that makes me feel like a hypocrite but well...
 I remember everything about our relationship.
 I wish you knew all this without my having to tell you.